I don't think the premise is that having kids makes you awful. I think Jason and Julie thought at first that having kids made their friends awful. (Though, really, Ben was awful from the beginning so I don't know why they didn't come to that realization earlier.) the problems their friends had were always there, and maybe the stress of having those kids amplified those problems. And I do see those two couples as having very different types of problems. Ben and Missy had a genuinely terrible relationship. With Alex and Leslie, I think it was probably more that they were shocked at how their friends were so tired all the time, and not as "fun" as they used to be. (But, one thing I have learned is that once everyone starts having kids, everyone has fun again. It's just a different kind of fun.)
At 5 months, yes, they could totally be making quiches. A baby that young doesn't do very much that requires both parents' attention at the same time, at least not very often. My older son would only nap on me for the first six months of his life - which was not a huge problem because I really happen to enjoy sitting around watching TV and reading books - so I did a lot of sitting around holding a baby. And even then, without my help, my husband (the better cook in our family) regularly made good food. When I was on my own with the babies I made edible food. I still make merely edible food. Also, some babies are just really easy. My sister and I have four boys between us, and while I wouldn't say either of my kids was particularly difficult (aside from the older one NEVER NEEDING TO SLEEP), her 3.5 year old was such an easy baby compared to my boys and his brother. Angel baby. They got lucky with him and it does make you kind of want to hate those people, but it does happen. My reality is closer to Alex and Leslie. I mean, if you are terrible at keeping house and prone to letting things slide, ithat situation is not going to improve when the baby arrives. If you are super compulsive about cleaning, your house will be clean even after the baby is born.
I like Jennifer Westfeldt a lot but I can see what it is about her that you may find off putting.
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At 5 months, yes, they could totally be making quiches. A baby that young doesn't do very much that requires both parents' attention at the same time, at least not very often. My older son would only nap on me for the first six months of his life - which was not a huge problem because I really happen to enjoy sitting around watching TV and reading books - so I did a lot of sitting around holding a baby. And even then, without my help, my husband (the better cook in our family) regularly made good food. When I was on my own with the babies I made edible food. I still make merely edible food. Also, some babies are just really easy. My sister and I have four boys between us, and while I wouldn't say either of my kids was particularly difficult (aside from the older one NEVER NEEDING TO SLEEP), her 3.5 year old was such an easy baby compared to my boys and his brother. Angel baby. They got lucky with him and it does make you kind of want to hate those people, but it does happen. My reality is closer to Alex and Leslie. I mean, if you are terrible at keeping house and prone to letting things slide, ithat situation is not going to improve when the baby arrives. If you are super compulsive about cleaning, your house will be clean even after the baby is born.
I like Jennifer Westfeldt a lot but I can see what it is about her that you may find off putting.